Effects of Divorce on Children:
How the Collaborative Process Helps
Separation or divorce can be an emotional experience for all the family but a Collaborative approach can help to make the process easier for all involved.
Children can blame themselves when their parents split up, so it is important from the outset to ensure that they understand that the separation has not been caused by them. Conflict can have a negative effect on children so aim to keep arguments away from them wherever possible. During this difficult time they will need a lot of praise and support. When discussing the divorce, plan in advance what you will say to them to ensure that it is presented in a way that will leave them feeling reassured and secure.
Presenting a United Front
Divorce means change, and it is important to help children to maintain as much stability as possible. If both parties in a couple can agree on the information they will give to their children, this will give them some reassurance of what will happen to them during the divorce process. Avoid blaming each other and keep explanations simple.
Collaborative Law helps couples to make rational decisions about their children’s future. The potential for conflict is reduced and it can allow couples to work towards an amicable relationship for the period of their children’s upbringing.
“Where the separating couple have young children, the Collaborative process enables them to continue to raise their children together although they are living in separate households. The whole process enables the separating couple to achieve an agreed settlement rather than have the Judge impose a Court Order upon them.”
Aileen Hartnett, Taylor Walton
The Collaborative approach maintains the lines of communication between a couple, and helps them to work together to form a resolution. If the children can see that their parents are able to work together, this gives them stability and comfort for what their future might hold.
Collaborative Law brings experts in to deal with every aspect of a divorce, from emotional to financial. This can make the divorce process more satisfying for all involved, and helps children come to terms with the changes that have taken place in their lives.
The effects of divorce on children can be greatly eased by an amicable divorce [LINK AMICABLE DIVORCE] between you and your partner guided by the Collaborative approach.